Thursday, May 1, 2008

You have gotta help me!

i know that I have told you in the past that my 3, is a blue eyed devil child. I have said that in the past in jest-now, I am serious.

I am at my wits end-I really don't know what to do with her. I even bought a book-

The secrets of the baby whisperer for Toddlers

I really need help. I know that there are many moms out there who have dealt with a 3 year old with success. I have tried all that I know-and now, I don't know what to do anymore. She hits her sisters-she threw a camera at 8 tonight-in the head, she thought that it was funny.

She doesn't listen-she throws tantrums constantly and I am ready to throw her through a window.

So-please help me. Any tips that have worked for you. I don't really want advice- such as

"don't worry-this too shall pass"

"she will grow out of it"

"You have got a spitfire on your hands-good luck!"_thanks mom.

So-no advice-little tips that are sure to save my sanity. Thanks in advance!

PS-I just saw the new Juicy juice commercial-come on-you are selling a juice!!


Lori said...

Sorry to hear about all your troubles. Sounds like you have a little spitfire (sorry, couldn't help it) The only advice I have is to watch Supernanny - she works miracles. Hope others have better advice! Good luck!

Chelsie said...

Maybe you should call super nanny! Just kidding! Your kids are so funny and they make me laugh everytime I'm with them. So don't tame the blue eyed devil....I like all the stories too much! I'm glad you guys got away! You deserve it. Love ya!

ShAwNi AnD sCoTtY said...


Melissa said...

Ummm... I have no idea. For us, I know what my kids "buttons" are. Everytime they do something they shouldn't, I know what to use that will be the biggest punishment. For Red - it's no friends and no video games
For Little Bug - it's time spent on his bed
For Baby Girl - no outside time and I take away her fairies or Littlest Pets
Time outs don't really work... I agree with lori about Supernanny - she has some great ideas that really do work...

Jill said...

We've discussed before how I have one with a similar personality to yours.
Have you read the book "How to raise your spirited child"?
It's a great book. It talks about labeling, and different ways to look at your child. I highly recommend it!

Until then, have her watch Supernanny with you.

HappyFLMom said...

I also have a "3". No advice b/c I'm clueless. Time-outs don't work here either. However, last night hubby took away "A Bug's Life" movie which she had only started to watch. Worked!! I couldn't believe it. Not only did it work for last night, but it also worked for this morning b/c she told me first thing during breakfast that she would behave today so she could watch the rest of "A Bug's Life". Ha!!


Annie said...

Good thing she is so cute...huh? Thats probually why she is still alive and in one piece...=)

Well all i can say is rewards rewards rewards---for making "good" choices! worked for me, but ALL children are different and work different. We had the talk about good choices and bad choices.....we would say Ohh im sorry you chose a bad choice ( so they knew it was THEM making the choice) ...BUT when they would make GOOD choices they would get a reward( a basket full of small treats or whatever) I feel that it shouldn't be all about disipline it needs to be balanced with rewards and love and excitement too( even tho you wanna pull their hair
Anyways it worked for us with Autumn when she was younger---then she just grew out of it----she is still naughty at times tho...=)

good luck and maybe calling super nanny isn't such a bad

Debra said...

I use 1-2-3 Magic with my kids and it works well. I mean they all have their realy bad days, but for the most part it works well. It is H(*^ to implement until they know you mean business.

Also, we count down from 5 to 1. By 3 they usually stop doing what they are doing.

Other than that, get some relief by a night out or something weekly!

Leeann said...

Welcome to 3 year old hell. That's all I have to say. I know you just read my blog about my 3 year old's capers, so you have to know that you are not alone.
I have tried time-out's on a chair...that doesn't work. I spend 45 minutes, trying to keep her in the chair for a 3 minute stretch.
Time-outs in her room? She just pees on the floor to punish us.
Taking stuff away? She laughs.
Rewarding good behavior? She doesn't have any.

What we HAVE found, is that she is the perfect only child. I think she was meant to be born to some couple in NY that only wanted one kid...instead she ended up in a UT family of 6. However, if we remember to give her alone time (whether it's helping to fold laundry, or on a Daddy-daughter date, or just to run to the store) she behaves a lot better. She's obviously still not perfect...but she can't be 3 forever...right? RIGHT????

HappyFLMom said...

Hmm. Well today I thought of you a lot. Mine was a nightmare. Tonight I literally dragged her butt kicking and screaming to bed, closed the door, and left her to scream bloody murder until she either lost her voice or fell asleep. It was either that or beat her till the cops showed up. I think I made the right choice.

Good luck (again)!


Bridget said...

I have a little girl that sounds alot like yours and she's 3. I know the Super Nanny thing is what everyone says but it really is the only thing that works with mine.

I have people telling me all the time that she'll grow out of it or that it's funny but at the time I don't feel "ha ha" and when she hurts someone it's not so funny. For us anyway, it's consitent naughty chair for bad behavior after a warning and praise for the good behavior. Hope that helps, it's helping us.